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Let's address the elephant in the room: bisexuality is probably the most misunderstood orientation within the LGBTQ+ community—and that's saying something.
"You're just confused." "Pick a side." "You're going through a phase." "So you're half gay, half straight?"
If you're bisexual, you've heard it all. From straight people who don't believe you exist. From some within the LGBTQ+ community who question your commitment. Even from well-meaning people who accidentally erase your identity every time you're in a relationship.
Here's the truth: Bisexuality is attraction to more than one gender. Full stop.
It's not confusion. It's not a phase. It's not "half and half." It's a complete, valid sexual orientation experienced by millions of people—in fact, it's the largest group within the LGBTQ+ community.
Let's explore what that actually means.
What Does Bisexual Mean?
At its core, bisexual means being attracted to more than one gender. Historically, the term meant attraction to "both" genders (hence "bi"), but the modern understanding is much broader.
Many bisexual people are attracted to:
The key is multiple genders, not necessarily "all genders" or "only two genders."
Some bisexual people experience attraction to different genders in different ways. Some experience it similarly. Some have preferences. Some don't. Bisexuality is beautifully diverse—there's no single "correct" way to be bi.
The Bi vs Pan Question (Let's Settle This)
"Isn't bisexual outdated? Shouldn't you say pansexual?"
No. Absolutely not. Here's why:
Bisexuality has never meant "only attracted to two genders." The bisexual community has always included people attracted to non-binary individuals, genderfluid people, and folks across the gender spectrum. The Bisexual Manifesto from 1990 explicitly stated this.
The difference between bi and pan often comes down to personal preference:
Neither is more inclusive or enlightened. They're simply different ways people describe their experiences. The suggestion that "pansexual is better because it includes non-binary people" is based on a misunderstanding of what bisexuality means—and is, frankly, a bit insulting to the bi community's long history of gender-inclusive attraction.
If you're wondering which label fits you? Use the one that feels right. Both are valid. Both are beautiful.
Common Misconceptions (Time to Bust Some Myths)
"Bisexual people are greedy/can't commit."
This is biphobia, plain and simple. Being attracted to multiple genders doesn't make someone unable to commit to a relationship. Bisexual people are just as capable of monogamy as anyone else. Orientation ≠ behaviour.
"You're only really bi if you're equally attracted to all genders."
Nope. Many bisexual people have preferences—maybe you're more often attracted to women, or men, or non-binary people. That doesn't make you less bisexual. Attraction doesn't require perfect balance.
"If you're in a relationship with someone, you're now gay/straight."
This is called bisexual erasure, and it's exhausting. A bisexual woman in a relationship with a man is still bisexual. A bisexual man in a relationship with a man is still bisexual. Your current partner doesn't redefine your orientation.
"Bisexuality is just a phase/stepping stone to being gay."
Some people do come out as bi before later identifying as gay or lesbian—and that's fine. But millions of people are bisexual their entire lives. For them, it's not a phase. It's who they are.
"You're not really bi if you haven't been with multiple genders."
Sexual orientation is about attraction, not experience. A straight person doesn't stop being straight if they've never dated. A bisexual person doesn't need to "prove" their identity through sexual experience.
The Bisexual Experience
Discovery:
Many bisexual people describe their realisation as a gradual "oh... I'm attracted to multiple genders, aren't I?" moment. For some, it happens young. For others, it's a later-in-life revelation—particularly for people who grew up when bisexuality was even less understood or accepted.
Some bi people initially identify as straight or gay before realising bisexuality fits better. That's not confusion—that's self-discovery.
The Double Closet:
Here's something many bisexual people experience: being closeted twice. Not out to straight people who'd judge their same-gender attraction. Not out to some LGBTQ+ spaces where bisexuality is questioned or dismissed.
It's exhausting to have your identity questioned from all sides.
Dating Whilst Bi:
Bisexual people navigate unique dating challenges:
Despite this, bisexual people date, fall in love, and build beautiful relationships across the gender spectrum.
Finding Community:
The bisexual community is vibrant, diverse, and incredibly welcoming. Bi+ spaces (the + includes pan, fluid, and other multi-gender attracted identities) offer places where you don't have to explain or justify yourself.
Many cities have bi social groups, Pride organisations have bi committees, and online spaces abound. You're not alone—not even close.
Why Visibility Matters
Bisexual people make up roughly 50% of the LGBTQ+ community, yet we're often the least visible. This invisibility has real consequences:
Visibility combats all of this. When bisexual people are open about their identity, it:
The Bisexual Pride Flag
The bisexual pride flag features three stripes:
The flag was designed by Michael Page in 1998 to increase bisexual visibility. The overlapping colours creating purple symbolises the blending of same-gender and different-gender attraction.
Signals of Identity
When your identity is constantly erased based on who you're dating, having a visible signal becomes powerful.
Wearing a bisexual pride bracelet says:
It's a daily affirmation that your bisexuality is valid. It helps other bi people find you. It signals to potential partners that you're open to attraction across genders. And honestly? It's a relief not to have to explain yourself constantly.
Our bisexual bracelet is designed to keep you visible. Because erasure is exhausting, and you deserve to be seen.
Finding Your People
If you're bisexual—whether you've just realised it or you've known for decades—you're part of a massive, diverse, wonderful community.
Resources:
Books & Media:
YouTubers & Creators:
Books:
Representation:
Tip: Follow #bisexual and #biTwitter on social media for a thriving, supportive community. Bi people are everywhere—you just have to know where to look.
A Final Word
Bisexuality is not confusion. It's not greed. It's not a phase. It's not half-gay or half-straight.
It's a complete, valid, beautiful sexual orientation.
You don't owe anyone proof. You don't need to justify your preferences. You don't need to have dated multiple genders to "count." You don't need to be equally attracted to all genders.
You just need to be yourself.
And when you're ready to wear your identity proudly—to stay visible even when the world tries to erase you—we're here for that.
Explore RCREW's bisexual pride bracelet and keep your identity visible, no matter who you're dating. Because bisexuality doesn't disappear when you fall in love.
This Christmas, we want to say thank you—to every LGBTQ+ person who refuses to be invisible, who shows up authentically, who makes space for others. 2025 tested us with DEI rollbacks and political backlash—2026 may bring more challenges. But we've survived worse. We're recommitting to solidarity, visibility, and supporting each other through what comes next.
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